Posts Tagged ‘Whitney Houston’

The Meaning of Whitney Houston’s Life…and Death

Sunday, February 12th, 2012

Last night when I heard about Whitney Houston’s death, the first thing that I experienced was disbelief and then slowly, as I began to process it, I settled into acceptance. Why acceptance? Well, Whitney Houston’s life has come to an end but it did not end until she changed millions of lives. It did not end until she fulfilled her purpose here on earth.

Anyone who does not think that Whitney Houston’s purpose on this earth was tied to singing has not heard her sing. At the height of her singing career, when Whitney Houston sang, some of us were so taken by the beauty and the power in her voice that we would stop breathing. She took our breath away.

I don’t know how Whitney spent the last few moments of her life here on earth, but I hope that even though she may not have lived the “perfect” life, that she recognized that she accomplished something that many die never having accomplished. She did not die with her music still inside of her. Literally.

“Don’t die with your music still inside you. Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul. Listen to that inner voice, and don’t get to the end of your life and say, ‘What if my whole life has been wrong?” Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The lesson that I am taking from Whitney Houston’s life and death is, as Dr. Dyer puts it, to listen to my intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs my soul. At the end of my time here on earth, I will not wonder if my whole life was wrong. I won’t wonder because listening to that voice is listening to God’s soft whisper and no one and nothing is more powerful than that.

Rest in peace, Whitney Houston. No matter what anyone says about you, I love you. I admire you. You taught me a lesson. You literally, did not die with your music inside you and now even though your body has left this earth, you will live on through your music.

Whitney Houston’s daughter in the news over alleged drug use

Monday, March 14th, 2011

In the last week, there have been photos circulating the internet that allegedly show Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown’s daughter, Bobbi Kristina, either sniffing cocaine or smoking what some are speculating is marijuana. This is, of course, a very sad story regardless of whether or not it is actually true.

What I am pondering though is that if it turns out to be true, how many of us are actually surprised? Whitney Houston has herself admitted to drug use and addiction. It is not that much of a stretch to believe that her teenage daughter may now also have entered the drug use and addiction world. Children learn most of their behavior by watching their parents.

My children are still very young but as they get older, I am increasingly more cognizant of my behavior because I recognize that what I’m modeling is going to affect their behavior, both in the near and distant future. I encourage every parent to raise the bar of personal conduct, not only because we should all be aspiring to do and be better as individuals but, more importantly, because our children are watching.

From the time that you become a parent, every behavior that you display should be filtered through one very important question: Is the way that I am behaving right now the way that I would want my son or daughter to behave in the future?

Whitney Houston’s example is an extreme case, but there are other instances that I believe that parents can take the opportunity to raise the bar of their conduct. Consider this simple example: My husband annoys me and I lose my temper and raise my voice while I share my feelings , with him, about how annoyed I am! Not such a big deal-right? WRONG! What I have just modeled to my daughter, among other things, is that it is okay for her to disrespect her (future) husband and I’ve also just suggested to my son that it is okay to be disrespected by his (future) wife.

I’m not saying that disagreements are not going to happen in households, nor am I suggesting that parents can be perfect all the time. What I’m saying is that when we become parents, we have a new level of responsibility that goes beyond just providing food and shelter for our children. In my example where I was annoyed, I had several options. The first one would be to simply brush off whatever was annoying me and not say anything. The second option would be to let my husband know about my displeasure but choose the right time and place as well as do it in a respectful manner. If I lacked the self respect and control to exercise the first two options, I could at the very least, confine my unbecoming behavior (yelling) to a closed bedroom door! (Note: Option three, in my opinion, is still setting the bar very low).

So parents, the next time that your conduct is anything less than excellent, just remember…someone is watching you.