By Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses
When I was younger, if you had asked me to paint a picture of my perfect life, I would have said the following:
I want to be married to a wonderful man who loves and cherishes me. He has to be a man of integrity who is committed to his spiritual growth and development. He must be a kind and loving father and a respectable member of his community. I want two healthy beautiful children; one boy and one girl. I want to live in a lovely home in a beautiful neighborhood. Oh, I’d also like a pool and a hot tub in the back yard and lots of space for us to run and play games. It’s starting to sound pretty good-right? But I’m not finished.
My dream job would be one where I inspire and teach others to accomplish their goals, whether it be finishing college, getting a job or maybe just improving their quality of life! I want to serve others in a way that leaves them a little more educated, more joyful and inspired.
Wait! There’s more! I want to be surrounded by like-minded people who love what they do and do what they love! I want to have great friends who challenge me and encourage me to be my best self. I want to eat delicious and life giving food, travel to new and exciting places and meet people from all over the world! I want to have time to spend with my family and the financial freedom to enjoy the time we spend together. Sounds great doesn’t it? Well, this IS my life and YES, it is WONDERFUL!
Some years ago my life started on a slow and steady path to mediocrity and one day I realized that the first thought that I had every day when I woke up was “Man, I hate my life”. It’s not hard to figure out why I hated my life:
- I had gained about 50 pounds
- I had no job
- My car had been repossessed
- I was on the verge of eviction
- I had alienated or lost contact with most of my friends and family
- My bank account was empty
- My food pantry and my fridge was empty
- And I was nursing a strong and ever increasing dislike and resentment for the man in my life
And these are just the things that I can remember! I’m sure there was more! The following are the steps that I took to change my life from the mediocre existence that I hated to the joyful life that I now enjoy. I believe that you too can take these steps and change your life.
Nomalanga helps Black women thrive in their lives and careers. She is a Social Commentator, an Editor at Your Black World , Assistant Professor of Professional Studies and the reigning Mrs Botswana. Visit Nomalanga’s Facebook page or Follow her on Twitter