Posts Tagged ‘Motherhood’

Motherhood: This Woman Had a Baby at 70 Years Old

Thursday, January 22nd, 2015

70 momBy: Krystle Crossman

Being a mother is hard. Children are energetic, playful, charismatic, and troublemakers. Generally parents are young enough to handle the everyday family life and can make it through all of these challenges. However Omkari Singh has a very different situation. She has a six year old son who is very energetic but she has to go about raising him a little differently. Why? Singh is 76 years old. She gave birth when she was 70. Her husband at the time was 89 years old.

Singh gave birth to twins in 2008. She had a girl and a boy. The girl unfortunately died at the age of four. The son, Akashvani, Is perfectly healthy and very much an active child. Singh says that she has a hard time keeping up with him at times because she is old and cannot move around as quickly. She has trouble when it comes to bathing him and getting him dressed as well.

The people that live in her town criticized Singh and her husband for having a child so very late in life. She had a reason for it even though not many understood. She had given birth to two daughters early in life and now has five grandchildren. The problem was that she wanted to have a boy. She felt that she had no purpose as a mother if she did not have a son to raise to take over the household when she and her husband passed away. They desperately tried to conceive another child while they were young but it just didn’t happen.

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Motherhood: This One Factor Can Affect Your Child Forever

Sunday, January 4th, 2015

baby n momExperienced parents will give you all the advice in the world on how to raise your child in the best way possible and how to be a positive influence on them for life. One thing that many parents commonly miss in their list of ways to be a better parent however is sensitivity. It is too bad too because this is one of the absolutely best things that you can do that will impact your child in a positive way for the rest of their lives.

It can be frustrating being a parent and can be very hard at times. Sometimes we tend to take out our frustrations when we display emotions to our children. A new study out of Minnesota called the Minnesota Longitudinal Study of Risk and Adaptation has shown that sensitivity towards your child when they are very young will help them incredibly when they are older. They collected data from 243 different children who were infants and toddlers. During their first 42 months of life they got together with the mother four times to watch how the mother and child interacted during feeding times and play times.

Once the children were older and in school their teachers submitted evaluations on how well they played with their peers and interacted with other people. They also reported the children’s standardized test score results. After the children were grown and were in their 20s and 30s the researchers followed up with questions about their educational records and their relationships.

What the researchers found was that the children that had parents who were more sensitive to their needs had better relationships later in life as well as better academic progress. They ended up with romantic relationships that were stable and happy. They did well in social settings and had high marks on tests.

Read the rest at The Black Homeschool

How Randi Zuckerberg Juggles Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making

Saturday, January 3rd, 2015

Randi Zuckerberg, former marketing director of Facebook Inc and now children's author.Most people know Randi Zuckerberg as Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg’s sister but she is a force to be reckoned with in her own right. The Harvard graduate is the front for a cover band, is an Emmy-nominated TV producer and contributor and is also the founder of her own media company. As if that was not enough, Zuckerberg is also a mother of two.

Entrepreneur.com caught up with the busy career woman to find out how she balances all the hats she wears. The interview is below:

Entrepreneur: You recently welcomed a second child to your family. Congratulations! What apps and tech do you lean on two make your life a little easier?
Zuckerberg:
We’re new to this whole “having two kids” thing, so I’d say we’re definitely still figuring it out. The baby is so much easier this time around, but the combination of the two? Chaos!

Luckily, behind every great parent are a whole bunch of great apps and gadgets. A few of our favorites include: Nest thermostat (so we can keep our room perfectly chilled, while also keeping the nursery toasty warm and manage it all from our phones), DropCam (to check in on the little guy during nap time), Dropbox and Evernote to store important documents and to-do lists (baby brain is a real thing!), my Swash laundry device (so I can “refresh” that blazer that just got baby spit up on it, before rushing out the door to host my SiriusXM radio show), the Rock-a-bye Baby channel on Pandora (you haven’t lived until you’ve heard a lullaby rendition of Metallica), PayPal to manage all the expenses going in and out (babies are expensive!), and the Timehop app so we can compare Simi to what Asher looked like at his age — an instant smile every day!

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What to do now to “hit the ground running” in 2015

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

Career LadderBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Whether you’re working at your dream job or a dead end job, you’re a full time work-at-home-mother or you own your own business, your career is a major part of your life.

As a Life Balancing expert for women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™ I get a lot of questions surrounding the “money-making” part. Even if we love what we do, some part of most of our careers is about making money so it is important to take time to plan and formulate a strategy to elevate our careers.

Below are five things you can do now to “hit the ground running” in 2015:

1. Vision – Get clear about what exactly you want to accomplish. Ask yourself where you see yourself three to five years from now.

2. Goals – Once you have clarified what you want your future to look like, set some SMART goals (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, time-bound). Make sure that the goals you set will cause you to stretch yourself a little; go beyond your comfort zone. That is how you grow. Make sure that you write your goals down.

3. Plans – Once you have written your goals down, create an action plan. What actions will you take on a daily basis to get you closer to accomplishing your goals? Write that down too.

4. Prioritize – Although all your goals are likely to be very important to you, the reality is that some are more important than others. Make sure that as you write down your goals and action steps, you put them in the order of importance.

5. Company and Accountability – This last part can be a little tricky because as human beings, we get attached to people but sometimes we don’t make good decisions about the company we keep. Take time to write down a list of the people who have affected your life and been closest to you in 2014. This is the hard part: you have to make a conscious decision to reduce contact with those that have affected you negatively and held you back from moving forward in a positive way. You must also make a conscious decision to increase contact with the people who will keep you accountable and will be a positive influence on your life.

2014 is not over yet, use your last few days to go through that list and “hit the ground running” in 2015. See you on the other side!

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™.  Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

To find out how you can book Nomalanga to present at  your next conference or event, click here.

This post originally appeared at techyville.com

One Word That Can Relieve You of Stress and Anxiety

Monday, December 8th, 2014

stressedBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Many women who are on the never ending journey of creating balance in their lives often complain that they are overwhelmed and feel a lot of stress and anxiety because “there never seems to be enough time to do everything”.

I often laugh and say, “Of course you’re going to be overwhelmed if you try to do everything!” The key to reducing stress and anxiety is to learn to say “no”. Now, opting out of things has to be done very mindfully and strategically in order for it to to work. Saying “no” randomly and arbitrarily often leads to guilt and shame which are just as bad as stress and anxiety. Think about it; you say “no” because you’re too overwhelmed and stressed but you still end up with another set of negative feelings; guilt and shame.

Below are three keys to use so that when you say that one word, no, it is a quality “no” devoid of negativity, guilt and shame. If you use the keys below, you can begin to say “no” from a place of confidence.

1. Plan – It is a good idea to plan as much as you can. Plan your professional and personal life s much as you can and follow your plan. You don’t have to be rigid about your plan(s) but it gives you a sense of order and clarity about what you’re doing. If you put your priorities in a plan, it becomes easier to opt-out (say “no”) to things that are not moving you towards your goals.

2. Organize – Your plan should be some kind of list of things you want to get done. Re-write your list in order of priority. Make a habit of creating order in your life, taking your priorities into consideration. Create systems that work for you and your loved ones and tweak them accordingly. When you plan and organize, you tend to be more firm when pushing back at things that will create disorder and chaos. You’ve put in the work to plan your day, (or week, or month) and you deserve the peace that comes with it.

3. Schedule – Make a daily/weekly schedule and make sure that your priorities are the first things on the schedule. Scheduling is an excellent tool because it clarifies what you’re doing and when and has the added benefit of making it clear when you have taken on a lot or too much. A quick glance at your schedule makes it easier to get to the right answer (No) much more quickly and confidently.

Another key thing to remember is that just because something seems urgent, it does not mean it is important. If it was not on your list of priorities and was not planned and scheduled, then you should probably turn it down.

 

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™. Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

To find out how you can book Nomalanga for your next conference or event, click here.

The Secret Ingredient That Makes Marriage a Delicious Cake or a Big Flop

Friday, December 5th, 2014

delicious cakeBy Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

I was baking and had the thought that when you bake a cake, there is always a possibility that it can turn out delicious or it can be a big flop. As a Life Balance Expert, when talking to different women about how they balance their lives, marriage tends to make up a large part of the conversation.

I genuinely believe that if you’re going to be a successful Mocha Mogul – an Entrepreneur woman who successfully balances marriage, motherhood and moneymaking™ you have to make sure your marriage is not a big flop. If it is, it is unlikely that you will achieve your goal of having life balance.

Much like when baking a cake, in order to make sure it is not a big flop, you must start out with the basic ingredients, like flour, eggs and sugar. How much sugar you add depends on how sweet you and those who will eat the cake like it. Marriage is the same in that there are some key ingredients, like both partners being fully committed, being loving and kind to one another and being intimate.

The mistake that many women make is that they start “baking” without actually taking the time to consider what kind of “cake” they want and then complain that it is a big flop! The best advice I ever got about marriage was that, in any given marriage, the experts are always the two people in the marriage. Many people run out to buy books, read articles and even attend seminars about marriage and relationships and miss the biggest step which is asking your spouse what they want – that is the secret ingredient! The secret ingredient changes based on who you ask and if you’re in a marriage, the best source for that key ingredient is your spouse. Just ask.

You see, for a person who likes their cake extra sweet, a perfectly lovely cake with a moderate amount of sugar may seem delicious to most people but to them, it may not taste delicious because it is not sweet enough. Even if you had the best chef prepare the cake, without that critical piece of information, the cake could still be a flop for that one person with the extra sweet tooth.

A wise woman knows that in order to have a “delicious” marriage that both her and her husband enjoy, she must first know what the basic ingredients are. Then she must know how “sweet” she likes it and how “sweet” her man likes it and most importantly, she must make sure her man knows her secret ingredient and she knows his. If the cake still isn’t as delicious as they both hoped it would be, they shouldn’t be afraid to read a book about baking or to even call a master pastry chef who has been baking for a long time and can give some insight on how to produce a delicious cake. In marriage, this translates to reading a book about marriage and getting counseling from an expert or someone who has a lot of experience in marriage.

At the end of the day, as long as you have the basic ingredients and you mix in the secret ingredient, you can make a delicious cake. If however, you don’t take the time to make sure you have all the ingredients and you ignore each other’s preferences, you may have a big flop on your hands. The next time you feel like your cake or your marriage is not delicious, consider that you may have forgotten to add the secret ingredient.

What are the ingredients in your delicious marriage?

Nomalanga is a Life Balance Expert. Her speaking and coaching programs help busy women who struggle to balance Marriage, Motherhood and Money-Making™. Nomalanga is an experienced instructor, author and avid blogger.

To find out how you can book Nomalanga for your next conference or event, click here.