Posts Tagged ‘joyful living’

How to be a MAN by Boris Kodjoe

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2011

I just read this at Black Love and Marriage and I HAD to share it! Anyone who knows me knows that I am a firm believer in the “institution” of marriage so I’m always glad to read some good information and even happier to share it.

By Team BLAM

Happily married actor, Boris Kodjoe in response to a friends tweets about what to look for in a man, chimed in with a list of his own on how to be a man and how to love a woman. We give major props to Boris because he unashamedly represents marriage in a positive way and has no problem affirming his wife Nicole Arie Parker.

“- Embrace your imperfections

– Laugh at yourself. A woman likes a man who doesn’t take himself too serious.

– Fix or build something with your hands. It’ll show her that you are capable of taking care of a home.

– Know how to cook and clean. It’ll show her that you don’t need her but that you WANT her.

– Get your passport and travel. A man needs to see the world.

– Communicate without cursing. You don’t need to curse to make a point. Cursing shows lack of substance.

– In bed, take care of your woman first. When she’s satisfied you are DA MAN!!!

– Stay in shape. It’ll show her that you care about yourself and therefore are able to care about her.

– Take care of your responsibilities. Anything less is unacceptable. A boy is irresponsible, not a man.

– Open her her door and pull out her chair. It shows her that you honor traditional values. Trust me, she will do the same.

– Be present! Take her in with your eyes and ears. Your attention will make her feel loved and she won’t ever nag you.

– Read a f—ing book! (Sorry, violation of ‘no cursing’ rule) But seriously, ignorance is a major turn-off. Book on tape will do.

– Have an ambition. You don’t need to be rich but you need to show direction and motivation. Keep a job!

– Last one for today: Treat a woman the way you would want your daughter to be treated. Anything less is unacceptable.”

Ladies you may want to show this list to your man! Fellas if you’re reading this, take note.

MINDFUL MORNINGS:Find your Greatness

Monday, October 31st, 2011

We must all have intimate knowledge of our own power and greatness. It is only in knowing our own power that we can appreciate that of another person or gender. It is through a lack of knowledge of our own power that we become threatened by the power of another person or gender. If you know your own power you’re secure and if you don’t you’re insecure. This applies to both men and women equally.

Have a POWERFUL day!

MINDFUL MORNINGS: Giving Advice

Tuesday, October 18th, 2011

Someone gave me some “advice” recently and I honestly felt like a fish being told to get out of the water. The lesson? Well, land creatures should not give sea creatures advice 🙂

Seriously, though-I think that when we give advice (which I do a lot!!!) it is wise to first consider that even  if the advice that we’re giving sounds good to us, it may not be applicable to the person we’re giving it to because they operate on a very different set of principles and philosophies.

My response to the advice was very gracious because I think the person giving the advice honestly thought they were “helping”-THEY WERE NOT! But I do appreciate that even though we may be misguided at times, having good INTENTIONS does count for something 🙂

Mindful Mornings: The mindset

Wednesday, October 12th, 2011

This morning, during my quiet time, I had the thought that I have in the last few years become stronger (mentally). I realize that it was only through going through some “tough” times that I have, over time, become stronger. I’m finally at the point where when I feel like a particular challenge is threatening to overwhelm me, I can actually change my perspective and view it as an opportunity to grow and learn a lesson. I recognize that during a “rough” or “tough” time, it is not easy to look at what is going on favorably, BUT that is precisely what I am suggesting.

Since making this one shift in my mindset, I can honestly say it is next to impossible for anyone or anything to “ruin my day” or my life. Are you ready for a shift in your mindset? Let me know-leave a comment or e-mail me at [email protected]

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Mindful Mornings: R.I.P Steve Jobs

Thursday, October 6th, 2011

Today as Steve Jobs’ loved ones mourn the end of his physical life, I am once again reminded of one truth: In the end everything that we have accumulated means nothing unless we leave behind a legacy of our purpose here on earth. What is your purpose? And are you living it every day? If not; why not?

Rest in Peace, Steve Jobs.

“Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your own heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs, 1955-2011

Marriage and the truth about it

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

I generally try to minimize how much advice I give about marriage mainly because having only being married close to seven years, I still feel that in “marriage world”, I’m still a baby and have a lot to learn! That being said, I do love to share good information when I come across it.

I read this blog post this morning and it really resonated with me so I HAD to share! Read it here and let me know your thoughts.

Mindful Mornings:How to Improve your life

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011

It is important to get feedback that is honest and well-meaning and use it for your personal development. That being said, nothing that anyone says about you, no matter how devastating or affirming will ever matter more than what you think of yourself. Your most powerful motivator and de-motivator both lie within. Let’s all take charge of that inner voice-our LIFE depends on it.

Mindful Mornings:Tolerance and compassion

Monday, September 26th, 2011

If you want to cultivate tolerance and compassion for others, then understand this: Every person that is alive today has a purpose for being on this earth. You may not see it or understand it and even they may not see it or understand it BUT yet it exists. As long as that person lives and breathes, they have a purpose and it will be fulfilled.

Mindful Mornings:Be YOU

Wednesday, September 14th, 2011

I am so loving being in my 30s. The last few years have been phenomenal. Life is amazing when you learn to stand (and walk) in your own truth. I will always work at being a better ME but I will Never apologize for being ME. I suggest you do the same.

Mindful Mornings: Be Powerful; Say “I can’t”

Tuesday, September 13th, 2011

I used to think that saying “I can’t” made me powerless. I now know that it just means I’m wise enough to know that in order to do the things that I do well, I must not crowd them with other things that I do not need to do and will probably not be able to do well because there are too many of them. There is POWER in “I can’t” and I choose to exercise it when ever it is necessary to do so.

I suggest you do the same.