Posts Tagged ‘Iyanla Vanzant’

Mindful Mornings: Determination by Iyanla Vanzant

Thursday, June 7th, 2012

Today I completed my first 10K (a little over 6 miles) after having fallen off of the wagon.

In just over two weeks, I will run my first 10K marathon and I was starting to think about backing out because of my lack of preparation thus far. Today, I decided NOT to quit. This short message from Iyanla Vanzant was just what I needed!

I hope it inspires you to do that “thing” that you were about to quit.

16 Lessons We Learned from Oprah’s Lifeclass: the Tour

Monday, May 7th, 2012


1. “Everybody’s life is either a warning or an example. You’ve got to decide what you’re gonna be and you have to draw a line in the sand.”
—Tony Robbins

2. “Forget all your learnings. Just remember that now is the moment that never ends.” —Deepak Chopra

3. “When you’re the strong one, people don’t give you permission to hurt.” —Iyanla Vanzant

4. “The most dangerous thing in the world is to have no purpose.” —Bishop T.D. Jakes

5. “If you tell yourself a lie long enough, you’ll start to believe it.” —Tony Robbins

6. “No matter what the situation is…close your eyes and think of all the things you could be grateful for in your life right now. Once your heart opens, you’ll see the abundance around you.” —Deepak Chopra

7. “You can’t wait for the perfect situation. Find something you love. People you love. And get out there and you’ll discover it.” —Tony Robbins

8. “Greatness is contagious…You’ll catch it if you get around it.” —Bishop T.D. Jakes

9. “Everybody’s got a past. The past does not equal the future unless you live there.” —Tony Robbins

10. “When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief.” —Iyanla Vanzant, paraphrasing A Course in Miracles

11. “If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” —Bishop T.D. Jakes

12. “If you’re gonna make a change…operate from a new belief that says life happens not to me but for me.” —Tony Robbins

13. “The most wonderful thing in the world is somebody who knows who they are and knows where they’re going and knows what they were created to do.” —Bishop T.D. Jakes

14. “Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.” —Tony Robbins

15. “I use memories but I will not allow memories to use me.” —Deepak Chopra

16. “Self-awareness is one of the rarest of human commodities. I don’t mean self-consciousness where you’re limiting and evaluating yourself. I mean being aware of your own patterns.” —Tony Robbins

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Lessons from Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant

Tuesday, June 14th, 2011

I just watched a re-run of the Oprah Show in which she and Iyanla Vanzant had a conversation for the first time in eleven years in front of a studio audience. My greatest take away from watching these two women is so simple and yet so life changing.

Iyanla, after leaving the Oprah Show where she had been a frequent guest expert, went on to have her own show, the Iyanla Show. The lesson that I got from what she said came when she described how badly she was treated at the Iyanla show. Rather than say that people treated her badly, she rephrased what she started to say and then said “let me tell you WHAT I ALLOWED…” Wow!

Starting today, I will never have another “pity party” talking about how someone treated me badly and not at some point give some consideration to the fact that whatever they did, no matter how bad, was not only done by them but by me as well because I ALLOWED it.

So, my friends, let this be a lesson for you as well. Think back on your life and all the people who you, to this day, believe treated you badly. Remember that one boyfriend (or girlfriend) who “did you wrong” or those people at that job who you just know belong in hell for what they did to you? Well, the lesson here is that some portion of that blame (if blaming is what you’re doing) belongs to you…because you ALLOWED them to do whatever it is that you say they did!

Iyanla concluded by saying that she believes that in every experience, even if that experience is someone treating you in an unacceptable manner, there lies a lesson that you need to learn. For me that lesson has been simple; as Dr. Phil puts it: you have to teach people how to treat you.