A lot of men and women often find themsleves struggling to make their relationships and marriages work and do not know why. For many, it is often because they did not have a role model in the home who they could refer to when they were unsure of the best course of action.
Ro Elori Cutno, an expert in culture and languages and how they relate to marriage, shares why a woman who has grown up wthout a father and has not healed that imbalance will stuggle to maintain a relationship with a man. Below is a recent post she shared on socila media:
When a woman grows up without a father at home, everything she learns about men is a complete misunderstanding! I need y’all to know. Women from single parent homes don’t know:
1. That all humans don’t think or feel like women, and that men are actually human.
2. That living among other women teaches you to be the opposite of what men can live with.
3. What masculine respect is.
4. That if you disrespect a man, the relationship is permanently ruined.
5. That most men are good.
6. That men need extreme peace.
7. That men are extremely different from women.
8. That respecting a man will bring women joy.
9. That masculine communication is everything else, then verbal last.
10. That charming a man is usually safe.
11. That some men will never look at you sexually.
12. That sweetness isn’t optional.
13. That parents should be before children.
14. That men are territorial & covet their wives.
15. That protection is often wrongly seen as control.
16. That men are naturally self preserving (selfish).
17. That boys are supposed to become men.
18. That men are needed.
19. That children need fathers as much as they need a mother, and more sometimes.
20. That men will tell you do to do something, not ask and that is okay and normal.
21. That you don’t get to tell men how to be men.
22. That men mark their territory like dogs with sounds and by taking up lots of physical space.
23. That men are all playful.
24. That men will keep clothing that is falling apart unless the wife replaces it.
25. That men actually do not love “independent women”.
26. That serving a healthy man is not degrading.
27. That men actually do have feelings.
28. That men try to diffuse a situation before overreacting.
29. That men care about how you feel, but their first response will always be logical.
30. That men don’t have to earn your respect.
31. That men need appreciation but won’t usually ask for it.
32. That just talking doesn’t make men feel better usually.
33. That men communicate and teach directly.
34. That normal men do gross things.
You can find out more about Ro, her Wife School and purchase her book, “Man Leads…” at RootsOfRoyals. Com.
We often hear about pay inequality where women earn about 70c for every dollar their male counterpart earns. This has been one of the strongest reasons why women have been talking about gender inequality. This is what most people focus on.
There are also laws in place to make sue that when a man and woman divorce, typically since the wife is likely to have been the one making less money, she is protected, financially.
Recently Mary J. Blige and her husband Kendu Isaacs filed for divorce. Isaacs is reported to be seeking almost $130,000 per month in spousal support.
The big question is this: When women started fighting for equality, is this what they had in mind?
Below is a breakdown of what Isaacs allegedly asked for:
This past week, numerous media sources made reports about music mogul Dr. Dre’s threats to sue singer and reality TV star Michel’le.
Lawyers for Dr. Dre have issued cease and desist letters over the release of “Surviving Compton: Dr. Dre, Suge Knight, and Michel’le,” a biopic based on Michel’le’s life as an artist at Ruthless Records and Deathrow Records. However, Sony Pictures (the film’s production company) and Lifetime (the TV network that released the film) didn’t bend to any legal threats.
On Saturday, October 15, 2016 at 8/7 p.m. EST and CST, “Surviving Compton” made its world premier debut on time and on schedule. The riveting biopic chronicles Michel’le’s life from the late 1980s until the early 2000s. This film tells Michel’le’s side of the story, which was infamously left out of 2015’s wildly successful “Straight Outta Compton,” a straight-to-theater biopic about the legendary rap group NWA.
Michel’le’s biopic about the days when Ruthless Records (and later Deathrow Records) reigned supreme over the entertainment industry showcases the musical genius of the “Something In My Heart” songtress. However, “Surviving Compton” is appropriately named.
It takes a special kind of strength to live through what Michel’le experienced during such volatile days in the music industry. She did all that on top of bearing children by two of hip hop’s most notorious rivals and California-bred music moguls. Domestic abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, and a depiction of the $ex-fueled lifestyles of a host of entertainers is definitely on full display in “Surviving Compton.”
What happened to Black love? Who decided that Black women were not worthy of a lifetime of love, companionship, a beautiful house and home and a healthy and comfortable home life?
In the video below, Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses and Shaquita Graham discuss a very compelling topic – courting.
It seems that the way that marriage and family are viewed is often negative or as the two ladies put it, “marriage and family are being devalued”.
In this segment of Married Women’s Business, the ladies stalk about the significance of the process of courting a mate and how it affects Black women, men and children and ask some very thought provoking questions.
For more Married Women’s Business TV segments, go to this LINK.
Implementing an idea that requires you to use your creativity and eventually give you the ability to deliver an essential product or service to supporters of your brand is a wonderful thing.
This is the most fundamental process that a successful entrepreneur must go through in order to achieve his or her goals. The most unassuming, everyday person can turn a spur of the moment idea into a successful enterprise that serves a legion of satisfied customers.
Take Nneka, 27 (pictured), is a prime example of who a person can become and what they can do being creative and using ingenuity. Nneka approached a crossroad period in her life when she was recently discharged from the military honorably.
The single mother just started a business called Innovative Supplies, which features a product line of school supplies that are designed with themes of black pride. Madame Noire covered Nneka’s journey in an article that was published on Tuesday.
“[Nneka’s] notebooks [are] so dope you want to buy 20 for yourself and everyone you know. She took action and her products sold out,” wrote Erickka Sy Savane, a Madame Noire contributor.
While marriage can be the hardest thing to maintain and be successful at, there are no formal tests or prerequisites, other than being above a certain age. Unfortunately, some people find out too late (after getting married) that there are some important questions that should have been raised before making that big leap.
In the video below, Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses and Andre Hatchett discuss a story about a man who says he is ready to marry a woman but says he is unable to give her “the wedding of her dreams”.
Some of the questions that come up are why he is marrying her if he feels ill equipped to give her what he says she deserves.
Jalen Bailey, 8, and his mother live together in a small rental house in Fresno, California. Jalen has much bigger dreams than this small home however. He became an entrepreneur at a young age with one simple goal in mind…a house for his mother. It all started in preschool when he was helping his mother during the holidays while she was making sweet potato pie to make some money. He began forming ideas about other baked goods that he could make to give to people and soon his passion took off.
Seeing how engaged Jalen was with baking his mother, Sharhonda Mahan, decided that it was time for him to learn about business. He went to a program made just for kids that showed them how to manage money, manage a business, market themselves, and reach a specific target audience that they were looking for. He flew through the course and even got a business license through the state so he could begin selling his delicious baked goods to others. Now Jalen and his mother are sending out orders every day to their loyal customers.
BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com recently published an article about this issue titled Stop Obeying Your Wife: 4 Important Clues in Discerning Your Wife’s Preferences. Heath Wiggins, the article’s author put this painstaking subject in a light-hearted way, which pointed out how communication plays big a part in balancing a marriage’s power structure between man and woman.
“Don’t get me wrong; I’m not talking about ‘obeying’ in an authority/submissive manner. But in a ‘Honey, I gotta work late…can you make dinner tonight’ kinda way,”‘ Wiggins wrote.
Adulthood is all about doing what’s expected of you without being asked to do it the way a child has to be asked. The four clues of discernment Wiggins talks about vividly point out how a husband is to assert his role in the marriage without becoming a lame pushover living under the thumb of his wife.
The first clue of discernment Wiggins talks about deals with how a husband assesses the fears his wife may have. He writes:
“For example, is she afraid your young child might play with a small and potentially dangerous object left laying around the house? If so, you should always know to pick up the objects whenever you see them on the floor.Learn what your wife’s biggest fears are…if you don’t know already. From them, discern what her preferences are based on her need to avoid them.”(BlackAndMarriedWithKids.com)
Another clue of discernment Wiggins discusses in the article is the principle of Time vs. Money vs. Quality. He classifies this clue as being very significant. Wiggins goes on to write…
Serial entrepreneur Tomas Gorny was one who only chased after riches and ended up losing millions.
Gorny grew up in Poland, living in poverty. He came to the United States when he was 25 years old and started up a company. He made millions but wanted even more. Due to his constant pursuit of the almighty dollar he ended up losing everything. He sat back and looked at what he had done wrong so he wouldn’t make the mistake again. He started another company and now has a staff of 500 employees. He sat down for an interview with Brian Hughes, a contributor for entrepreneur.com, and told him the four most important things you need to know about building wealth:
1. You cannot be afraid to fail. Failure is a huge part of building your own business. You are going to have times where you feel like you can’t do anything right or the pressure is too much. How you handle the failure is what will define your future as an entrepreneur. Take risks. Don’t be afraid of a new idea or process. If it fails it is just an opportunity for you to reinvent a process or come up with new and better ideas.
2. If you are only focused on the money that you want to make you will never get ahead. Gorny said that when his business failed he looked at what he was doing wrong and it was focusing on money. Now he applies the principal of giving the best value and service to the customer that he possibly can because they are what is most important to the business.
3. If someone has an accent that is different than yours or they dress a little differently, you shouldn’t underestimate them. When he first came to America Gorny said that people pushed him aside because of his Polish accent. It only made him work harder and he is now well-respected in his community.