The Truth Hurts (sometimes)

by Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses on Thursday, October 7, 2010 at 8:15am

I am honored to carry the title of Mrs. Botswana 2010 and I am eagerly looking forward to traveling to Korea to represent the beautiful married women of Botswana. In thinking of ways in which I could best represent myself and my country, I had the thought that I should lose weight so that I would feel confident walking the stage in my bathing suit. My immediate reaction to this thought was that I shouldn’t have to lose weight to be “beautiful” and other similar thoughts. But amid those loud objections was a small voice waaay in the back of my mind telling me that I did have to lose the weight.

Just to be clear, I’m not saying being “fuller figured” means that we are not beautiful. One of the things that I find myself reminding many of the women that I teach and train is that all women are beautiful; we just have to realize that truth for ourselves. What I am saying is that we should not hide behind the “big is beautiful” statement while we carry on with our unhealthy lifestyles.

This little voice in the back of my mind was whispering to me because the honest truth is that I am not a size 12 because I am a “full figured” woman; I am a size 12 because in the last few years, I have not been making healthy choices with the foods that I eat and I have not been exercising the way that I know that I should.

Anyone who has heard me speak or teach knows that I am the “no excuses” lady and I make no exceptions, not even for myself. I could say that I have had two babies pass through this(my) body but that would only be an excuse because by the time I realized that I was expecting my first child, my daughter, I had already eaten and neglected my way from a size 6 to a size 12! I could say that I am too busy but there is no way I can talk as much as I do about priorities and try that one! I just recently read that Michelle Obama wakes up at 4:30am just to make sure that she exercises; if it’s important enough, it will get done!

The truth hurts…sometimes, but it does not mean that we should shy away from it. My passion is self development; mind, body and soul but somehow I got carried away with mind and soul and left “body” abandoned and ignored. If I was choosing delicious and nutritious food everyday and exercising for no less than an hour everyday, like I used to, and still had the full figure I have now, I would proudly strut my stuff knowing that I was healthy and beautiful. That however, is not the case but starting today, I’m doing a new thing!

I’m sharing this particular personal experience, first of all, for the same reason that I share all my personal experiences; it is my intention that my experience will both encourage and inspire you to make choices and decisions that will lead you to a better life or as Oprah puts it, your “best life”. I’m also sharing this because when we publicly declare our goals, we become accountable to the people who we made the declaration to.

So there it is, my friends, I have faced my truth and I am on my way to freedom! Freedom from what? Freedom from the nagging voice in my head that won’t go away; that keeps telling me that I know better and so I should do better. The truth does hurt, sometimes but knowing it (and facing it) does indeed set you free!

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2 Responses to “The Truth Hurts (sometimes)”

  1. Chanel says:

    I wanted to thank you for this [great] read! I unquestionably delight in every little bit of it and I have you bookmarked to check out new stuff you post.

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