Whitney Houston’s daughter in the news over alleged drug use

In the last week, there have been photos circulating the internet that allegedly show Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown’s daughter, Bobbi Kristina, either sniffing cocaine or smoking what some are speculating is marijuana. This is, of course, a very sad story regardless of whether or not it is actually true.

What I am pondering though is that if it turns out to be true, how many of us are actually surprised? Whitney Houston has herself admitted to drug use and addiction. It is not that much of a stretch to believe that her teenage daughter may now also have entered the drug use and addiction world. Children learn most of their behavior by watching their parents.

My children are still very young but as they get older, I am increasingly more cognizant of my behavior because I recognize that what I’m modeling is going to affect their behavior, both in the near and distant future. I encourage every parent to raise the bar of personal conduct, not only because we should all be aspiring to do and be better as individuals but, more importantly, because our children are watching.

From the time that you become a parent, every behavior that you display should be filtered through one very important question: Is the way that I am behaving right now the way that I would want my son or daughter to behave in the future?

Whitney Houston’s example is an extreme case, but there are other instances that I believe that parents can take the opportunity to raise the bar of their conduct. Consider this simple example: My husband annoys me and I lose my temper and raise my voice while I share my feelings , with him, about how annoyed I am! Not such a big deal-right? WRONG! What I have just modeled to my daughter, among other things, is that it is okay for her to disrespect her (future) husband and I’ve also just suggested to my son that it is okay to be disrespected by his (future) wife.

I’m not saying that disagreements are not going to happen in households, nor am I suggesting that parents can be perfect all the time. What I’m saying is that when we become parents, we have a new level of responsibility that goes beyond just providing food and shelter for our children. In my example where I was annoyed, I had several options. The first one would be to simply brush off whatever was annoying me and not say anything. The second option would be to let my husband know about my displeasure but choose the right time and place as well as do it in a respectful manner. If I lacked the self respect and control to exercise the first two options, I could at the very least, confine my unbecoming behavior (yelling) to a closed bedroom door! (Note: Option three, in my opinion, is still setting the bar very low).

So parents, the next time that your conduct is anything less than excellent, just remember…someone is watching you.

Peace

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