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Black men and women need to stand up for Black boys and girls like Trayvon Martin

Sunday, March 11th, 2012

I’ve been following the story of George Zimmerman, a white Neighborhood Watch Captain who murdered a 17-year-old African-American boy named Trayvon Martin in his parents gated Florida Community. It has been a month since Trayvon’s death and George Zimmerman has yet to be arrested.

The fact that George Zimmerman has yet to be arrested is outrageous! I am calling for every black man and woman in this country to stand up and voice their outrage. Trayvon Martin is not just a black boy in Florida that just got shot; he is OUR son and we all need to stand up and demand justice for OUR son. I have a son of my own that I gave birth to and I believe that if I don’t stand up and speak up for Trayvon, it is the same as not speaking up for my own son.

Trayvon was not some trouble making black boy who was shot while causing some unrest in a white neighborhood, not that that would justify his shooting either; he was just a boy walking in his own (his father’s) neighborhood and his skin color was all it took for him to be labeled “suspicious” and then gunned to death.

It has been reported that George Zimmerman was not arrested because, according to Tracy Martin, the teen’s father, Police in Sanford, where the shooting occurred, told Martin’s family that Zimmerman had a “squeaky-clean” record. Meanwhile, the Orange County Clerk of Courts website shows a man named George Zimmerman, 28, was charged in July 2005 with resisting arrest with violence and battery on an officer.

The longer George Zimmerman goes without being arrested, the more strongly we are affirming that what he did was and is still okay. Martin Luther King said it best, “An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere”. If you think that Trayvon’s death has nothing to do with you, think again. If the current climate of the justice system in America is such that a young black boy can be shot to death while he was unarmed and in his own neighborhood, by a white man who claimed he looked “suspicious”, and that white man not be arrested, then the notion that we are living in a country with racial equality is a lie!

I’m calling for every Black man and woman, parent or not, to do anything and everything that they can to hold the Sanford county police department accountable for following through and arresting George Zimmerman. They need to hear our voices, on behalf of Trayvon Martin and his family. Write a letter or send an e-mail or make a phone call-anything! The mayor of Orlando, the police chief and any and every other administrator needs to answer one question: Why has George Zimmerman not been arrested?

Why you should love a “hoe”, b*tch or “chicken head”

Monday, February 6th, 2012

When a woman has been raised in a home and, maybe, also a society that has minimized her, marginalized her and also disrespected and disregarded her, she may not realize that it has been repeatedly suggested to her that she is somehow inferior and the expectations that have been set for her life fall far below the potential that exists in her. She may not realize that she has bought into a lie.

You may know these women. They buy into the lie for different reasons. Among those reasons are religious beliefs that have been taken out of context or completely distorted. Some buy into the lie because their limited environment has only shown them one “reality” and in that reality all they see is evidence of their lack of power and their lack of significance. Some others have been brutally beaten (verbally, mentally and/or physically) and they have endured that treatment for so long that it is next to impossible to imagine that they could be valued, loved and respected. For some, what they have endured is more subtle and less recognizable; they are just overlooked or talked over, talked down to or ignored.

What these women do not see is the truth of WHO they are and who they were Created to be. You might ask: Who are they?

They are children of GOD.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

The next time you see one of these women, don’t laugh at her ignorance or “backward thinking” or call her a “hoe”, b*tch or chicken-head. Instead, look beyond WHAT she has become and instead see her for WHO she is. If you see her for WHO she is, how can you not love her?

Sex before Marriage

Wednesday, January 11th, 2012

I just read a post that really got me thinking…

“You appealed to his lower nature. You had sex with him and didn’t make marriage a requirement. You continue to have sex with him and still don’t make marriage a requirement. You decide that you’re going to have his baby, and again you still aren’t married because, again, you didn’t make it a requirement, he leaves you. But everything is “ALL HIS FAULT!”

The words above are a simple question that a lot of black woman who call themselves “baby mama” need to ask themselves. I completely understand and sympathize with the fact that “it takes two to tango” and that some men need a little nudge (like a court order) to take responsibility and contribute financially for their children’s needs. Anyone who pays attention to most of the things that I say/write, knows that I believe in personal responsibility. Before you ask or require other people to take responsibility for anything, you first have to ask yourself if you are taking responsibility

Read the post here and let me know what you think. [email protected]

Again, my friends, can I please not get an influx of angry e-mails about how judgmental I’m being! 🙂 Some truths need to be faced and we need to have dialogue so that we can begin to move into a better way of thinking and behaving. We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge-right?

Tearing down the wall: Racism and Sexism

Saturday, December 31st, 2011

“The lifting up of the woman does not require the tearing down of the man.” Bishop T.D. Jakes

“During my lifetime I have dedicated myself to this struggle of the African people, I have fought against white domination, and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for and to achieve. But if it needs be it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die.” (Nelson) Rolihlahla Mandela

I’ve come to realize that often when people speak out against racism, they are viewed as racists. When women speak out about sexism, they are perceived as “man haters”. I can’t speak for anyone else on this matter so I will speak for myself.

The way I see it, racism (and sexism) is this huge, thick wall that I keep running into. My response to the wall is NOT to then go and build another wall that people who are different from me (Non-black people for example) will then run into. My response is to first acknowledge that the wall exists and then explore if the wall exists primarily in my mind or if it exists in reality. I really wish I could say the wall was in my mind because that would mean that I could just deal with my mind and the “problem” would be solved! Just to be clear: more often than not, the wall is real.  I respond to the wall by doing my part to chip away at it and I believe that if enough of us chip away at it, it will disintegrate.

For the rest of my life, I will chip at the wall(s). I will bring attention to the wall and encourage as many people as I can to also chip at the wall and to also bring attention to the wall. We cannot change what we do not acknowledge.

Standing up against racial inequalities does not make me a racist; it makes me, among other things, a mother who wants her children to live to their full potential without running into unnecessary walls that degrade and defeat their beautiful minds and spirits. Standing up for women does not make me an “angry feminist” or an “angry black woman”; it makes me, among other things, a woman who wants her daughter , all our daughters, to reach their full potential without constantly running into a wall that tells them that they are less than.

The question that we all need to ask ourselves with regards to racial, gender and other walls, is this: Am I a builder or a chipper?

I am a Chipper. 🙂