Archive for the ‘Mrs Botswana at MRS WORLD 2011’ Category

Nomalanga: Miss World announces contestants list-what about the judges?

Friday, April 20th, 2012

It is being reported that a list of 50 winners of national beauty pageants around the world was made public. These 50 are the first of what is expected to be a total of 120 women all vying for the Miss World 2012 title. What I find interesting is that we always know so much about the contestants but so little about the judges.

It makes sense that in order to protect the integrity of the judging process, the international beauty pageants would not disclose the names of the judges but I also think it is reasonable to expect that after the pageants, there should be full disclosure. If there is no transparency in the judging process, we can never be certain that the winner was chosen fairly.

My experience at Mrs World 2011
led me to write a letter to the Mrs World Pageant owners, specifically because the pageant lacked both transparency in the judging process and there was a lack of diversity in the selection of the judges as well. Of the nearly 60 women that entered the Mrs World pageant, there were no less that 12 women who were either African or identified themselves as being of African decent and yet, not one single one made it into the top 14. Of the women that the judges selected to go into the top 14, only Mrs Vietnam (a gorgeous and phenomenal woman) made it in. The problem with this is that the only non-white judge on the judging panel was a Vietnamese woman who is also a former Mrs Vietnam.

I’m saying all this to make one basic point, we need BOTH transparency and diversity in judging international pageants. If pageants are going to define beauty by narrow, euro-centric standards, then it may be best for those that do not fit into those narrow stands to forgo entering the pageants all together. Although pageants are about more than how the women look, it is next to impossible to deny that how the women look is certainly a critical factor in deciding who walks away with the title.

The main reason why I wrote the letter to the owners of the Mrs World pageant is because I believe that the Mrs World did not select a diverse pool of judges and in so doing, they opened most of the Mrs World contestants to an unfair pageant experience.

One thing that I absolutely love about the Miss World (not MRS) pageant system is that their judging system is such that they always have a finalist from every continent or region of the world. That being said, in their history, they have only, to my knowledge, ever had two Black women win the title. Statistically, that is not high enough and I hope that in the coming years, we will see an improvement. Being a finalist and or runner up is great, but black women deserve to wear the crown as well.

Viola Davis Won!

Wednesday, February 29th, 2012

Viola Davis was nominated for an Oscar and she did not win, this year. Last week, before the Oscars, I watched the interview below and realized that even before she knew whether or not she won the Oscar, she had already won. I had the same experience at Mrs World.

There is a point in every woman’s life when she realizes the truth about who she is and from that moment, she is a winner.


Mrs World Pageant Owner responds to letter citing lack of racial diversity

Tuesday, December 27th, 2011

A week ago I wrote a letter to Mr. David Marmel, the owner of the Mrs World Pageant.

I got a response from Mr Marmel but I was very disappointed in his lack of acknowledgemnt of the points made in the letter. In my video interview with Your Black World, I discuss why I was not satisfied with Mr. Marmel’s response.

Second Interview About MRS WORLD

Tuesday, December 27th, 2011

Interview about MRS WORLD

Tuesday, December 20th, 2011

Open letter to Mrs World Pageant Owners

Monday, December 19th, 2011

I have entered a few pageants in my life and none has had as much of a positive impact on me as Mrs World 2011. Unfortunately, at the same time, none has had as negative an impact as well! Today I wrote a letter to the pageant owners and it is my desire that, going forward, no African women or black women wil endure what we had to endure. Read the letter here

Open Letter to Mrs World Pageant Owner, David Marmel

Monday, December 19th, 2011

Dear Mr. Marmel,

I would like to extend a warm and heartfelt thank you for what has been one of the most amazing experiences of my life. You and your delightful wife planned an experience that made me and the other contestants feel like royalty for the 8 to 10 days that we spent in Orlando, FL this year. The relationships that we built and the memories that were created are gifts that we will carry for the rest of our lives.

My name is Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses, Mrs Botswana 2010/2011 and I was one of the 58 contestants that participated in the Mrs World 2011 pageant. I am writing this letter on behalf of some* of the contestants that identify themselves as being black or of being of African heritage to express our disappointment in the lack of diversity both in your selection of judges as well as their selection of the top 14 contestants on finals night.

I will not assume that you are as aware as we all were that there was not a single black woman or a woman of African descent/heritage amongst the top 14 contestants and I am writing to bring this shocking detail to your attention. On the night of the finals at Mrs World 2011, shortly after the announcement of the top 14, several women voiced their disappointment at the way they were so grossly insulted by the blatant disregard of their presence in the pageant as well as the lack of acknowledgment that black women are beautiful, accomplished and worthy of consideration of the Mrs World crown. My suggestion was that upon our arrival back home, we should take a dignified approach to making you aware of our concerns regarding the issue of the top 14 not including any woman who is either African, black or identifies herself as having African heritage. That is the purpose of this letter.

Mr. Marmel, the omission of the above mentioned women in the top 14 makes such a strong statement that I feel that I would be remiss if I did not bring it to your attention; it says that no African woman is beautiful enough to be Mrs World; it says that our foundations, charities and the causes that we are passionate about are not important enough; it says that the Mrs World organization has such a narrow definition of beauty that we have no hope of ever fitting into it.

My research has found that in the history of the Mrs World pageant, no African woman or woman of African descent has ever won the pageant and to my knowledge, they have never even been in the top 3. I was told that the reasoning for this was that the pageant historically did not draw a large enough pool of women of color but I was present this year and I saw for myself that there was a large enough pool! I had the pleasure of meeting some of the most beautiful women that I have ever seen and amongst them were some intelligent, accomplished, passionate and gorgeous women of color!

My intention, being the first ever contestant to represent Botswana, was to then go back to Botswana and initiate a Mrs Botswana pageant and have a conversation with you about how I or another Motswana can become a country director. At this point, I feel that I cannot in good faith hold a pageant, prepare one of our most beautiful and accomplished Motswana women and then send her to Mrs World, knowing that she would be subjected to the same treatment that the black woman of the world were subjected to this year at the Mrs world pageant.

Mr Marmel, please be aware that these are not the angry ramblings of a discontented woman (or group of women) who feel(s) sour that she or they did not win. I am a woman who has a history of giving young women of color a voice, both in Botswana and in America. (I am married to a man who was born and raised in America.) This past semester I designed and piloted a college level course designed in the learning community seminar model to explore issues of women of color. Among these “issues” is a lack of recognition for our type of beauty and a lack of recognition of our accomplishments and the hard work that we do. I have a blog, www.successfulblackwoman.com that I created to take part in the redefinition of black women. Part of that redefinition is speaking up when we see issues that need a voice and doing it with grace and dignity. I am in the process of building a foundation in Botswana that will encourage the education of young Batswana, especially girls. I cannot remain silent when the most prestigious pageant for married women, whether intentionally or not, makes such a loud and deafening statement that black and/or African women do not have a place among the top 14 most beautiful and most accomplished women in the world.

My request, Mr. Marmel is that you make a statement that assures us that the selection of a top 14 that omitted black women at Mrs World 2011 was not the intention of the Mrs World organization. We would like some reassurance that the next time that the Mrs World organization holds a pageant; you will take deliberate actions to ensure that the judging panel is reflective of the diversity that exists among the women that are entering the pageant. We also suggest that the process of selection is more inclusive in that it is deliberately designed to select a minimum of one contestant from every region or continent of the world.

I would like to conclude by emphasizing that I have a tremendous amount of respect for you and your lovely wife. I believe that it took a lot of hard work, focus and talent to establish the Mrs World organization and develop it to its stature and I’m sure that you are just as concerned about its image as I am. I would also like to acknowledge Mrs America as one of the most amazing women that I have ever met and emphasize that this letter is not in any way written to criticize her or imply that she did not deserve the crown. I would also like to acknowledge the hard work of the pageant staff who were a remarkable group of people to work with. Once again, I thank you, Mr. Marmel and your wife, Elaine, for what has been a life changing experience.

Sincerely,

Mrs. Nomalanga Mhlauli-Moses

Mrs. Botswana 2010/2011, Miss Botswana 1997-First Princess

*Please contact me for a list of contestants that endorse the writing of this letter

HOW I WON AT MRS WORLD 2011

Saturday, December 17th, 2011

1. I became a pioneer for my country as the first ever Mrs Botswana
In the history of Botswana, no married woman has ever taken the courageous and bold step to enter the Mrs World pageant and represent the beautiful married women of Botswana. I am proud and honored to have opened this door and it is my hope and desire that we will continue in this new and unique way of recognizing the hard work, accomplishments and beauty of the married women of Botswana.

2. I achieved a lifelong dream of representing my country at an international pageant
In 1997, I entered the Miss Botswana (World) pageant and was honored to attain second place and be crowned the first princess of Miss Botswana 1997. Mpule Kwelagobe won that year and a couple of years later she was the first ever contestant from Botswana to enter the Miss Universe pageant. Mpule went on to make history as the first ever Black African woman to win the Miss Universe pageant. Mpule’s win brought all us Batswana a great deal of joy and pride and I believe she represented us exceptionally but my desire to compete at an international pageant never left. By competing in the Mrs World 2011 pageant, I finally fulfilled one of my big dreams.

3. I raised awareness and brought attention to issues that I’m passionate about.
Those that know me know that I recently designed, piloted and taught a college level course designed for young black women and other women of color. I believe that personal development is the bridge that takes us from where we are to where we were born to be and my passion and purpose is to instill this one principle in as many young women as I can. Mentorship and good roles models affect us in such positive ways and the more women of substance that stand up and lead by example, the more of a positive impact we can make in our families, our communities and society as a whole.

4. I reclaimed my health, beauty and vigor.
When I decided to enter the Mrs World pageant, I decided to be the best that I can be. I walked in looking my best and feeling my best. It was about being the most beautiful, healthy, fit and positive ME that I could be and going after this goal injected some passion back into my life and I channeled it into doing better with my eating and exercise habits!

5. I made lifetime friends.
I was loved, affirmed, validated, encouraged and understood and it did not just stop there, I met women who I instantly loved and appreciated and I poured into them in the same way that they poured into me. I laughed and cried and connected with such phenomenal women and my life is forever changed by that beautiful experience.

6. I brought “Noma” to the Mrs World pageant
One of the things that I heard most consistently before and during the pageant was “just be yourself” and that is exactly what I did. Some people loved it, some liked it and some…not so much :-). The victory here is that I accept myself as I am and that opens the door for others to do the same and that is one of the most powerful lessons that I have learned in my adult life.

7. I took my very first “solo” and much needed vacation ever since I got married and subsequently had children.
Since I got married and had children, I have never been away from all of them and my job all at the same time. What this experience has done for me is that it gave me time and space to reflect on my life and my life choices. It gave me a new sense of appreciation for my wonderful husband and my beautiful children.

8. I carried myself with grace and dignity.
The low moment in this pageant experience was the announcement of the top 14 the judges selected and sadly, there was not a single African woman or black woman or a woman of African heritage or descent amongst them-not a single one. At a point during the final night, there was talk of the all black women boycotting the pageant and just walking off. I was instrumental in negotiating with those that felt strongly enough to do it and asked them to maintain their grace and dignity even in the moment of such blatant disrespect and disregard. We all walked back on the stage and supported the winner, Mrs America; a beautiful woman with such a big heart that I felt the crown was in its rightful place.

9. I realized just how much my friends and family love, admire and support me.
During the week leading up to the pageant, I got so many messages of love, encouragement and motivation from friends and family from all around the world and I am forever grateful for that. I am so humbled by the amount of faith that “my people” had in [God] and what he could do through me.

10. I failed to get the crown but every failure takes me one step closer to my ultimate success.
At the end of the day, I did not walk home with the crown and that is okay because as I said, every failure (even though this was ultimately not a failure) leads to my ultimate success and my success is that of my husband, Ezra Moses, my children, my parents and family, my community and my country, the diamond of Africa-Botswana.

Ke a leboga bagaetsho. (translation: Thank you my brethren /my countrymen)