Posts Tagged ‘inspirational speaker’

Mindful Mornings: Self Esteem

Monday, February 27th, 2012

If the price of being “liked” or, so called, loved is compromising your values and sense of self-respect, then it is better NOT to be liked.

Your opinion of yourself is way more important than the opinion(s) that other people have of you. If you understand this, you’re SOLID.

Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker: How to Have a Happy Marriage

Wednesday, February 15th, 2012

Check out this interview that Boris Kodjoe and Nicole Ari Parker did with essence.com. I love seeing marriage work and I love it even more when the happy couples share their “secret to success”. Enjoy!

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The Meaning of Whitney Houston’s Life…and Death

Sunday, February 12th, 2012

Last night when I heard about Whitney Houston’s death, the first thing that I experienced was disbelief and then slowly, as I began to process it, I settled into acceptance. Why acceptance? Well, Whitney Houston’s life has come to an end but it did not end until she changed millions of lives. It did not end until she fulfilled her purpose here on earth.

Anyone who does not think that Whitney Houston’s purpose on this earth was tied to singing has not heard her sing. At the height of her singing career, when Whitney Houston sang, some of us were so taken by the beauty and the power in her voice that we would stop breathing. She took our breath away.

I don’t know how Whitney spent the last few moments of her life here on earth, but I hope that even though she may not have lived the “perfect” life, that she recognized that she accomplished something that many die never having accomplished. She did not die with her music still inside of her. Literally.

“Don’t die with your music still inside you. Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul. Listen to that inner voice, and don’t get to the end of your life and say, ‘What if my whole life has been wrong?” Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The lesson that I am taking from Whitney Houston’s life and death is, as Dr. Dyer puts it, to listen to my intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs my soul. At the end of my time here on earth, I will not wonder if my whole life was wrong. I won’t wonder because listening to that voice is listening to God’s soft whisper and no one and nothing is more powerful than that.

Rest in peace, Whitney Houston. No matter what anyone says about you, I love you. I admire you. You taught me a lesson. You literally, did not die with your music inside you and now even though your body has left this earth, you will live on through your music.
PEACE

Why you should love a “hoe”, b*tch or “chicken head”

Monday, February 6th, 2012

When a woman has been raised in a home and, maybe, also a society that has minimized her, marginalized her and also disrespected and disregarded her, she may not realize that it has been repeatedly suggested to her that she is somehow inferior and the expectations that have been set for her life fall far below the potential that exists in her. She may not realize that she has bought into a lie.

You may know these women. They buy into the lie for different reasons. Among those reasons are religious beliefs that have been taken out of context or completely distorted. Some buy into the lie because their limited environment has only shown them one “reality” and in that reality all they see is evidence of their lack of power and their lack of significance. Some others have been brutally beaten (verbally, mentally and/or physically) and they have endured that treatment for so long that it is next to impossible to imagine that they could be valued, loved and respected. For some, what they have endured is more subtle and less recognizable; they are just overlooked or talked over, talked down to or ignored.

What these women do not see is the truth of WHO they are and who they were Created to be. You might ask: Who are they?

They are children of GOD.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

The next time you see one of these women, don’t laugh at her ignorance or “backward thinking” or call her a “hoe”, b*tch or chicken-head. Instead, look beyond WHAT she has become and instead see her for WHO she is. If you see her for WHO she is, how can you not love her?

Mindful Mornings: What are YOU modeling?

Wednesday, January 25th, 2012

People follow your lead. If you respect yourself, they respect you. If you place a high value on your time, they will value it too. It works in reverse as well.

As with anything, there are exceptions but before you complain about how you were treated, always ask yourself one question: What was I modeling?

Tyler Perry: Thank you

Saturday, December 24th, 2011

One of the greatest gifts I’ve ever been given…By Tyler Perry (Via Facebook)

When I was a little boy (I couldn’t have been more than 6 or 7), my mother and I were riding in the car one day and she looked over at this car that was passing by and her eyes lit up. In my little boy voice, I said, “what mamma?” She said, “you see that car right there, that’s beautiful.” I said to her, “when I get big I’m going to buy you that car.” She looked at me and said, “OK baby,” and smiled. I don’t know if she believed me, but she sure made me feel like I would one day.

When I was growing up, there were so many times when she was sad because of our home situation or her illnesses. She had survived breast cancer and came through some unimaginable things in her life. As a child, I felt this huge responsibility to try and make her feel better. I can remember being very young sitting with her on the sofa trying to comfort her. I would say, “when I get big, I’m going to be able to take care of you and you won’t have to worry about anything.” She would say, “OK baby,” then I would go to my room and pray. I remember this like it was yesterday. I would pray, “God, please bless me enough to be able to take care of my mother.” That’s all I wanted! My hope was just to do well enough to take care of her, that’s it. Now look at what the LORD has done….Jesus!

I remember the day I told her to retire, she was so worried. I told her it would be ok. I had just started to do well and to tell you the truth, I was worried too. What if this play thing didn’t work out. 🙂 But I believed God had answered my prayer, so I looked at her straight in the eyes and I said, “I made you a promise when I was a little boy, and I will take care of you.” We both sat there in tears for a while…..that was a sweet moment!

I said all of that to say, one of the greatest gifts I have ever been given came from YOU! God used you to bless me, so that the last 12 years of my mothers life, even with all her health issues, she never had to worry about a roof over her head, bills or how she would afford her medications or doctor visits. Because of you, the man I am now was able to keep his little boy promise. You have no idea how thankful I am for all of you who have stood with me over the years.

So, from my heart to yours, and on behalf of my dearly departed mother, may I just say, “thank you.” You allowed me to be able to take care of my mother and that is the greatest gift I’ve ever been given.

Merry Christmas and God bless.

Big tears here….THANK YOU!

HOW I WON AT MRS WORLD 2011

Saturday, December 17th, 2011

1. I became a pioneer for my country as the first ever Mrs Botswana
In the history of Botswana, no married woman has ever taken the courageous and bold step to enter the Mrs World pageant and represent the beautiful married women of Botswana. I am proud and honored to have opened this door and it is my hope and desire that we will continue in this new and unique way of recognizing the hard work, accomplishments and beauty of the married women of Botswana.

2. I achieved a lifelong dream of representing my country at an international pageant
In 1997, I entered the Miss Botswana (World) pageant and was honored to attain second place and be crowned the first princess of Miss Botswana 1997. Mpule Kwelagobe won that year and a couple of years later she was the first ever contestant from Botswana to enter the Miss Universe pageant. Mpule went on to make history as the first ever Black African woman to win the Miss Universe pageant. Mpule’s win brought all us Batswana a great deal of joy and pride and I believe she represented us exceptionally but my desire to compete at an international pageant never left. By competing in the Mrs World 2011 pageant, I finally fulfilled one of my big dreams.

3. I raised awareness and brought attention to issues that I’m passionate about.
Those that know me know that I recently designed, piloted and taught a college level course designed for young black women and other women of color. I believe that personal development is the bridge that takes us from where we are to where we were born to be and my passion and purpose is to instill this one principle in as many young women as I can. Mentorship and good roles models affect us in such positive ways and the more women of substance that stand up and lead by example, the more of a positive impact we can make in our families, our communities and society as a whole.

4. I reclaimed my health, beauty and vigor.
When I decided to enter the Mrs World pageant, I decided to be the best that I can be. I walked in looking my best and feeling my best. It was about being the most beautiful, healthy, fit and positive ME that I could be and going after this goal injected some passion back into my life and I channeled it into doing better with my eating and exercise habits!

5. I made lifetime friends.
I was loved, affirmed, validated, encouraged and understood and it did not just stop there, I met women who I instantly loved and appreciated and I poured into them in the same way that they poured into me. I laughed and cried and connected with such phenomenal women and my life is forever changed by that beautiful experience.

6. I brought “Noma” to the Mrs World pageant
One of the things that I heard most consistently before and during the pageant was “just be yourself” and that is exactly what I did. Some people loved it, some liked it and some…not so much :-). The victory here is that I accept myself as I am and that opens the door for others to do the same and that is one of the most powerful lessons that I have learned in my adult life.

7. I took my very first “solo” and much needed vacation ever since I got married and subsequently had children.
Since I got married and had children, I have never been away from all of them and my job all at the same time. What this experience has done for me is that it gave me time and space to reflect on my life and my life choices. It gave me a new sense of appreciation for my wonderful husband and my beautiful children.

8. I carried myself with grace and dignity.
The low moment in this pageant experience was the announcement of the top 14 the judges selected and sadly, there was not a single African woman or black woman or a woman of African heritage or descent amongst them-not a single one. At a point during the final night, there was talk of the all black women boycotting the pageant and just walking off. I was instrumental in negotiating with those that felt strongly enough to do it and asked them to maintain their grace and dignity even in the moment of such blatant disrespect and disregard. We all walked back on the stage and supported the winner, Mrs America; a beautiful woman with such a big heart that I felt the crown was in its rightful place.

9. I realized just how much my friends and family love, admire and support me.
During the week leading up to the pageant, I got so many messages of love, encouragement and motivation from friends and family from all around the world and I am forever grateful for that. I am so humbled by the amount of faith that “my people” had in [God] and what he could do through me.

10. I failed to get the crown but every failure takes me one step closer to my ultimate success.
At the end of the day, I did not walk home with the crown and that is okay because as I said, every failure (even though this was ultimately not a failure) leads to my ultimate success and my success is that of my husband, Ezra Moses, my children, my parents and family, my community and my country, the diamond of Africa-Botswana.

Ke a leboga bagaetsho. (translation: Thank you my brethren /my countrymen)

Mindful Mornings:Freedom

Sunday, November 27th, 2011

I used to think that I wanted to be “free”; free from poverty, free from hate, hurt, being controlled…Today I am grateful for the revelation that I AM free and I have always been free. I am free because my freedom comes from within. I am free because I was created to BE free. Any bondage that we feel is a creation of our minds; it is not real.

FREEDOM IS REAL. It always has been and always will be. We can either embrace it or deny it.

Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.-A Course In Miracles

Mindful Mornings: The mindset

Wednesday, October 12th, 2011

This morning, during my quiet time, I had the thought that I have in the last few years become stronger (mentally). I realize that it was only through going through some “tough” times that I have, over time, become stronger. I’m finally at the point where when I feel like a particular challenge is threatening to overwhelm me, I can actually change my perspective and view it as an opportunity to grow and learn a lesson. I recognize that during a “rough” or “tough” time, it is not easy to look at what is going on favorably, BUT that is precisely what I am suggesting.

Since making this one shift in my mindset, I can honestly say it is next to impossible for anyone or anything to “ruin my day” or my life. Are you ready for a shift in your mindset? Let me know-leave a comment or e-mail me at [email protected]

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Mindful Mornings: R.I.P Steve Jobs

Thursday, October 6th, 2011

Today as Steve Jobs’ loved ones mourn the end of his physical life, I am once again reminded of one truth: In the end everything that we have accumulated means nothing unless we leave behind a legacy of our purpose here on earth. What is your purpose? And are you living it every day? If not; why not?

Rest in Peace, Steve Jobs.

“Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your own heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs, 1955-2011